I was doing some late night browsing among blogs and whatnot cause well I was bored and sleep just wasn't going to happen. I stumbled across a couple about C-sections (including one I had read before) and I was just astounded at the stupidness of these posts. Let me elaborate..
I have had two c-sections myself. First with Reese 10 years ago. I was fully intending on having natural child birth but the universe had other ideas and I ended up having an emergency one instead. Now I don't remember much cause well, drugs are awesome. Epidurals are your friends unless you like all the ripping pain, then by all means pass it up. I was scared as hell when the nurse came in and said they were going to do the c-section because it wasn't in the plan. All in all it wasn't that bad. The recovery time was the same as it was if I had given birth to him without all the operating rooms and being carved open like a Thanksgiving Turkey.
I was fortunate enough to have my own room and the nurses were awesome. I was also lucky to have a supportive partner as well. Thankfully Brian was pretty in tune with when I needed meds or if I was just being a baby, he was also great in dealing with the nurses too and policing visitors. I never needed anything stronger than the codeine/tylenol cocktail they start you off with although I did get a shot of percaset and that was just worthless. It did absolutely nothing for my pain. Getting up and down wasn't that difficult once I figured out how to roll out of bed without pulling my stitches or staples. Once I got home it wasn't that difficult to take care of Reese and myself. I took naps when he did and had everything close at hand that I might need for the first week and then I forced myself, along with some prodding from Brian, to get up and do things normally but carefully since I was still healing.
It was the same with Cole except his was planned. I went into the doctors appointment where the subject would be delivery and said I wanted to have the c-section. After 36 hours of labor with Reese and having to have an emergency c-section I knew I didn't want to go through all of that just to end up in the operating room again. The doctor was fine with that and he was actually going to suggest it because of how my last delivery went. Recovery time was the same both in the hospital and at home. So was the drug situation. Cole's dad Ryan did a great job too of making sure I had help if I needed it as well as taking Cole so I could get a few hours of sleep or take a shower in peace. The only difference between Reese's delivery and Cole's was with Cole they had to widen my previous incision because he was such a big kid and the nurse that put my IV in before I went into surgery was kind of a dick. She punctured the vein and wrapped the IV to my arm to tight causing my fore arm to swell a little and some bruising but really that was the worst of it. Breast feeding was also a little more difficult as I wasn't able to nurse him for more than a few weeks as I ended up with having a mild case of mastitis. SO NOT FUN. It made nursing Cole painful. Eventually I just had to use a breast pump because nursing him left me in tears but even using the breast pump was painful and we switched him completely over to formula at about 6 weeks old or so because I bled into 8 ounces of breast milk. At that point it just wasn't worth all the hassle and he was mostly on formula anyway.
So now that you have a little history on my experience let me just say this: I call BULLSHIT! In one of the blogs I read the blogger actually said that any woman who actually schedules a c-section is crazy, a masochist and possibly a drug addict. While I may be slightly crazy and well lets be honest everyone is a little masochistic, I, along with all the other women in the world who have c-sections, made the best choice for me and for my baby. Have you ever read what can happen when you give birth naturally?? Holy shit batman! Its awful!! My friend Mary had the worst time with her son Liam when he was born. He got stuck and just tore her insides to shreds. She couldn't even pee without medical assistance for a while and had to have some reconstructive surgery after. Her daughter Quinn on the other hand popped right out. Liam's birth was just circumstance.. She had amazing doctors and nurses. Shit happens yo..
Honestly I'm just amazed by the stupidity of some of these mothers. Stop bitching about a few hours of pain and who gives a fuck about the asshole nurse you had. Come on.. You gave birth to an amazing little person. I'm pretty sure that trumps your petty whiny ass shit. That amazing little person is worth a few weeks of discomfort. Just because you had some shitty luck with your hospital and delivery experience doesn't mean that every one does. Every single pregnancy and delivery is different.
My message is simply this.. Don't believe all the bullshit you read on mom blogs or boards. Its not the standard and not everyone is going to experience the same things. You could have an amazingly pleasant experience or you could have a crappy one. Its the roll of the dice man. There's nothing you can do about it except for be calm and go with it.
Ask for advice and talk to your girlfriends who have had babies but PLEASE for pete's sake remember that you're experience will be different and don't freak the hell out.
Rant done.. We will now resume our regularly scheduled blogging (well tomorrow we will haha)
Till next time!!
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